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is a way of helping you to protect yourself and your children. It involves having a personal safety plan in advance for the possibility of future violence and abuse, helping you to think about how you can increase your safety either within the relationship or if you decide to leave.
You can’t stop your partner’s violence and abuse – only they can do that. But there are things you can do to increase your own (and your children’s) safety. You’re probably already doing some things to protect yourself and your children. If there is a pattern to the abuse you’re experiencing, this may enable you to plan ahead to increase your safety.
Whatever coping strategies you have used – with more or less success – there may come a time when you feel the only option is to leave.
If you do decide to leave, it is best if you can plan this carefully. See our thinking about leaving page for further information.
If you are concerned for the safety of yourself/your children or someone else, please ring 999
If you leave your partner because of abuse, you may not want people to know the reason you left.
It is your decision whether or not you tell people that you have suffered domestic abuse; but if you believe you may still be at risk, it might increase your safety if you tell your family and friends, your children’s school and your employer or college what is happening, so that they do not inadvertently give out any information to your ex-partner. They will also be more prepared and better able to help you in an emergency.
If you have left home, but are staying in the same town or area, these are some of the ways in which you might be able to increase your safety:
If you have moved away from your area and don’t want your abuser to know where you are, then you need to take particular care with anything that may indicate your location; for example:
Anyone wanting to register their details anonymously must provide evidence such as an order under the Family Law Act 1996 or the Protection from Harassment Act 1997. If an application is granted, the details that appear on the register only have a person’s electoral number and the letter N.
If you stay or return to your home after your partner has left, then you will likely have a or in place.
If the injunction has powers of arrest attached, then do make sure that your local police station has a copy, and that the police know that they need to respond quickly in an emergency.
It is important to know that you do not have to stay at home – with or without an injunction – if you do not feel safe there.
You could also consider the following:
These resources offer information to help you stay safe online:
Please remember: if you need support in relation to any form of Violence Against Women, Domestic Abuse or Sexual Violence, you can contact us
We offer a range of support services for adults and children who have experienced domestic abuse or sexual violence
Our support staff can offer advice via 03300 564456 during office hours (Mon-Fri 9.30am-4.30pm). Outside of office hours, our phone number can be used to access urgent information and advice.
Request a call back from our support services team in your area.